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#74: "My Ejaculation Opens the Door to Deeper Orgasm"

Published Monday, May 27, 2013

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In the Tantric and Taoist traditions, it's often recommended that men should abstain from ejaculating, which is a challenging concept for modern men!
 
I believe it’s not about you should or shouldn’t, but how you orgasm. So here are some thoughts from a man who practices mindful lovemaking and agrees with me that it's not what you do but how you do it. 

“I find my orgasms to be very different from before, very meaningful. I feel grounded, very complete and even more connected during and after the ejaculation.
 
 “Everything leading up to the orgasm - our interaction, the setting of the room, the approach to foreplay and all the stages, it doesn’t matter how long we make love for, at the point of orgasm it’s just completely different.
 
 “Before, it was more a carnal thing, there wasn’t so much intimacy and connection. At the moment of orgasm, I felt disconnected. It was a big release, then ‘I’m done.’
 
 “Now at the point of ejaculation it’s like, ‘Hey!’ I come even closer. We’re even more connected. I feel: this is amazing, ‘Wow! This is a whole different level! I don't want to pull out, I don’t want to be disconnected from that moment.’
 
 “Most of my energetic... read more


#73: To Come or Not To Come

Published Monday, May 06, 2013

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One of the main differences between 'standard' modern sexual practices and the more alternative, spiritual sexual practices is the attitude to orgasm.

In the mainstream, orgasm is generally considered a highly desirable, usually necessary, part of sex, and generally the bigger the better and the more the merrier.

In the Tantric/Taoist approaches there is a strong emphasis on not having an orgasm. Which to many modern Westerners seems crazy, especially for those who think the whole point of sex is orgasm.

So, who’s right? Should we or shouldn’t we? Is it more healthful/spiritual/ecstatic/pleasurable/fulfilling to come or not to come?

Well, to me it’s less about whether you come or not, and much more about how you come.

You see, nothing in life is black and white, particularly when it comes to sex.

To believe that we shouldn’t come is as limiting as believing that you have to come.

I certainly encourage everyone to move away from the mindset, firmly entrenched in the Adolescent Male Masturbatory Model of Sex: that sex is about a sexual... read more


#56: Pelvic Floor Pleasures - Advanced

Published Monday, July 09, 2012


Once you've been practicing the basic exercises for a while, you should feel a change in your pelvis, feeling more present and connected to your genital region. This is a good thing. 

Give your pelvic floor a squeeze now, notice how it connects you to your pelvic area. Breath into your belly and do some more squeezes, nice and relaxed.
 
 Let’s look at some advanced pleasures. 


Connect with your Pelvis.The first advanced pleasure is simply that - to connect with your pelvis. So many people are disconnected from their pelvises. Increasing the connection will help men last longer and men and women to have better orgasms.
 
Recharge Yourself. You can also use your pelvic floor to draw energy up your body, to recharge yourself. Visualise an energy centre in your pelvis. It could be a flame, a cloud of electricity, a pulsing gem, whatever comes to mind. Then as you squeeze and relax, keeping your breath low and calm, imagine that with the squeezes you are drawing energy up your body, either up your spine or up your middle.
 
 Please note that if you’re doing a lot of energy raising in this way, it’s important that you also lower and centre the energy at the end of your practice. All you need to do is put... read more


#51: How to Master the Art of Vaginal Stimulation

Published Monday, April 23, 2012


Once you’ve navigated your partner’s vagina and got to know the G, A and Ohh Spots a little better let’s look at how you can stimulate all those good spots for maximum effect.

 Before you get anywhere near her genitals though, make sure your partner is well and truly aroused and wanting your fingers to enter. 

Remember, it’s about invitation not penetration! 

The G-Spot:

Insert a finger, run it along the corrugated ridge that’s her urethral sponge until you get to the end, hook your finger on the edge and pull back towards her vaginal opening. A tickling type of movement might be enough, or you may need to be quite firm. Try it with one finger initially and then try it with two, either pulling with both fingers together, or waggling your fingers so they alternate stroking that point. You can also try rubbing around or stroking across the spot. 

She may find the sensation unpleasant initially, with an urge to pee, in which case ask her to relax and have a sense of pushing out with her vaginal muscles. Build up to this though, try a few pulls then relax, a few more. Don’t expect her to love it in the first session, or even the first few sessions. It might even be that she’ll never like... read more


#48: We All Need To Be Balanced in Our Masculine and Feminine Sides

Published Monday, March 12, 2012


I received a passionate response from a man in relation to my recent blog post: “Feminine Receptivity and the Go-Getter Kind of Girl”: 

"... "And importantly, they don’t ‘do’ anything to catch a man, rather they allow him to prove himself. A woman who is truly in her feminine knows her value and worth, she’s no eager beaver..." And yet a man presumably cannot just know his own value and worth and let women prove themselves to him? Sorry, you do write wonderful articles, but I think I might be saying something that all men feel these days, but don't know how to express.”
 
 He makes a good point, and I agree. That blog was written in response to a specific question about whether strong successful women can be feminine, so was written focusing on women. Let me look at the situation from both points of view.
 
 For so long our society has devalued the feminine and lauded the masculine. Which meant that for centuries we had an overly dominant masculine, one that was very patriarchal, all about control and dominance; and we had an overly weak feminine, one that was pathetic, weak, and dependent.
 
 With the social changes of the 1970s women rightly declared that they were sick of being second-class citizens, they declared they were... read more


#45: The Etiquette of Observing Breasts

Published Monday, January 30, 2012


I was asked this question from a man recently:
 
"Recently I asked the folks at "Dear Cupid" a question about the etiquette of when a man may permissibly glance at a woman's breasts. For some reason they found my question "inappropriate to publish." To me given the fact that heterosexual relationships start with a man and women visually interacting with one another that the question of when it is okay to glance at a woman's breasts seems extraordinarily fundamental. Many men don't seem to know that it isn't bad to look because hardly anybody tells them they can. So what is the deal and can't somebody write something on this?"
 
 This was my reply:

Regarding men looking at women's breasts: of course you like it. It's natural!
 
 That's why women evolved breasts, because we walk upright so you see her chest (you don't need obvious breasts to breastfeed a child, other primates don't have them, and very flat-chested women can nurse just fine).
 
 In fact, a study (whose reference escapes me) proved that when men look at women's breasts every day, even photos of breasts, they were much calmer and happier than men who didn't. As to the etiquette of looking at women's breasts - be subtle, no woman wants a man to address her breasts rather than her... read more


#41: A Sensual Man Makes A Great Lover

Published Monday, November 07, 2011

What is the number one thing that makes a man a great lover?

His sensuality.

Without sensuality, when a man makes love to his partner, there can be no real connection. Without that connection, the sex becomes uninteresting, even a turn-off for the woman, and the sex dies.

With sensuality, a man can be both tender and commanding, that wonderful combination of the Yin and Yang of a man. This enables a woman to be both yielding and strong, that wonderful combination of the Yin and Yang of a woman.

What that simply means is that when a man is in touch with his sensuality he can really connect with his woman. This enables her to let go with trust and with desire. She can truly open herself to him. She feels his desire as strong without being aggressive and she can yield and open herself up to it.

With sensuality a man can enable his partner’s “energy” to heat her up to boiling point, so that her sexual response is powerful and ecstatic - way more than just a physical response to genital stimulation . You see, when a man tunes into his sensuality his skill as a lover goes way past his physical “technique”. It becomes much less about his “doing” than... read more


#32: Men Need a Muse Not Just A Vagina

Published Monday, May 23, 2011




I know men intimately. It’s one of the blessings of my work. Hundreds of men have opened themselves up to me, baring their souls, telling me how they feel at the most basic, the most sensitive and the most intimate levels of their being.

One thing I have come to realise - men need a muse.

To a man, his beloved is so much more than just someone to have sex with. She is his inspiration, his reason for being, she is what gives him meaning and drive in life. When a man connects deeply with his woman, when he makes beautiful love with her, he feels all-powerful, as though he could conquer the world - and he does!

Unfortunately, because we’ve had a back-to-front view of sexuality in western society for so long (millennia), society as a whole doesn’t realise this. Men aren’t going to say anything because they’ve been brought up to suppress themselves and their emotions. They’re also dealing with a male stereotype that doesn’t match them, so they often feel wrong.

Worse still, women don’t get it. They’ve bought into the myth that men are these sex-driven creatures who just want to ‘get their end in’. It’s so not the case. Men need to connect with their woman.... read more

#24: Fire and Water: The Masculine and Feminine Sexual Energies

Published Monday, December 27, 2010




The masculine sexual energy is like fire: it comes on quickly, burns brightly and extinguishes quickly.
 
 The feminine sexual energy is like water: it’s slow to heat up, but once it’s boiling it will boil and boil and boil and boil…
 
 So if we divide sex into two phases, desire and response, then the masculine has more energy in the desire phase and the feminine has more energy in the response phase.
 
 This is why men generally tend to have a stronger libido, and why women have a greater range and intensity of arousal and orgasmic response.
 
 Ideally in the sexual act, the man will use his fire energy to heat up the woman’s water energy. She’ll reach heights of arousal and ecstasy that will make him feel absolutely fantastic because he’s the one who got her there. He’ll probably have an orgasm too, but his satisfaction is ultimately in the pleasure he’s given her. The release of all her sexual energy satisfies and nourishes him completely. In this way the sexual circuit is complete and sex is a wonderfully fulfilling, healing, liberating and bonding experience for both of them.
 
 We do have both masculine and feminine energies within us and a well-rounded person will have a reasonably good balance within them. There are... read more


#19: Not-So-Secret Men's Business

Published Monday, October 04, 2010

I am bravely, perhaps fool-hardedly, but definitely doggedly running a Black Belt in the Bedroom seminar on Monday evening.

Why do I say doggedly? Because men are so bloody hard to get to a workshop on sex!

I just got an email from a participant (who’s coming back for the second time) about trying to persuade his mates to attend. He started it by saying: “So Jacqueline, I now have a new-found respect for what it is you do,” because they all said to him: “I’m already a black belt in the bedroom” (although he has persuaded four of them to come along).

The fact is guys, you’re not black belts in the bedroom. Even if you are pretty amazing in the sack, there’s always more to learn. I’ve taught Tantric masters stuff they didn’t know, so believe me, there’s always more.

It is a bit of a male thing not to ask for help (or directions!), but if it’s important enough to you, you will. It’s actually a sign of a master of any skill or sport or art: they keep learning, practicing, experimenting, researching. It’s the same with sex.

In case you need more convincing, I’ve devised this little quiz for you. If you can answer ‘yes’ to every single... read more


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    #52: Tools for Self-Validation from a Luscious Woman
    #51: How to Master the Art of Vaginal Stimulation
    #50: Discover the G, A and Ohhhh-Spots
    #49: The Tantric Quickie
    #48: We All Need To Be Balanced in Our Masculine and Feminine Sides
    #47: One Couple's "Kilimanjaro Walk" to Sexual Reconnection
    #46: Feminine Receptivity and the Go-Getter Kind of Gal
    #45: The Etiquette of Observing Breasts
    #44: The World is Waking to Conscious Sex
    #43: Try A Little Tenderness
    #42: Erotica or Sleaze
    #41: A Sensual Man Makes A Great Lover
    #40: Sensuality Feeds Sexuality
    #39: What is Sex Therapy, Sex Coaching and Tantra Teaching?
    #38: The Beauty of Conflict
    #37: A Woman's Body Opens In Stages
    #36: Breathe Well: Live & Love Well
    #35: Phone Sex
    #34: Do Your Research - It's Fun!
    #33: Unconditional Love Requires Self-validation
    #32: Men Need a Muse Not Just A Vagina
    #31: Teaching Tantra in Thailand
    #30: Being Real
    #29: Twelve Benefits of Sex
    #28: Communicate - Human's Can't Read Minds!
    #27: True Intimacy
    #26: The Core of Tantra: Real Sex
    #25: Sex as Entree not Dessert
    #24: Fire and Water: The Masculine and Feminine Sexual Energies
    #23: High Libido Women Keep Themselves Simmering
    #22: The Breadth of Sexuality & the Importance of Fun
    #21: Prioritising Sex
    #20: Obligation Sex is Self-Imposed Low-Level Sexual Trauma
    #19: Not-So-Secret Men's Business
    #18: Could We Have A Festival of Sexuality?
    #17: Three Things a Whole Man Needs
    #16: Valuing the Masculine
    #15: Valuing the Feminine
    #14: Face the Darkness to Find the Light
    #13: Grow Up and Open Up Australia
    #12: How Men Can Circulate Sexual Energy
    #11: The Great G-Spot & Female Ejaculation Debate!
    #10: Sexual Pleasure is the Great Equalizer
    #9: Become a Black Belt in the Bedroom!
    #8: Neuroplasticity - Moulding Your Brain for Better Sex
    #7: Raise Your Sexual Energy
    #6: How To Consume An Ice-Cream - Lose Yourself in Pleasure Pt 2
    #5: How To Eat A Peach - Lose Yourself in Pleasure Pt 1
    #4: Love in the Time of Chaos
    #3: A History of Sexual Misinformation
    #2: Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth
    #1: The Birth of the LoveLife Blog - with some underlying philosophical ramblings

    #361: Great Sex is Not About Speed
    #360: Sexual KPIs - Key Pleasure Indicators
    #359: Your Relationship is Like a Boat that Carries you through Life
    #358: Talk 'Erotic' Not 'Dirty'
    #357: Great Sex is Rarely Spontaneous
    #356: Approaching Sex As A Spiritual Practice
    #355: You're Not Alone - Sexual Struggle is Normal
    #354: Let Nature Boost Your Libido
    #353: Invite and Envelop
    #352: A Kiss Is Just A Kiss
    #351: How to "Start the Dominos Falling"
    #350: Move Towards Love-Led not Lust-Led Sex
    #349: The Yin & Yang of Erotic Physiology
    #348: Should Age Like A Fine Wine
    #347: We All Need To “Come Out” To Our Unique Sexuality
    #346: Burn Away the Undergrowth to Allow New Growth
    #345: Don't Push a Relationship to Crisis Point, End It Sooner
    #344: When It Gets Awkward in Bed
    #343: It's Normal to Find Other People Attractive
    #342: The Dance of Initiation
    #341: We All Need A Phone Policy!
    #340: What Comes Before Consent
    #339: More than Sex-Positive, We Need to be Sex-Comfortable
    #338: Get Off the Hedonistic Treadmill!
    #337: You Can't Search for Love. It's Already There. You Can Only Remove the Barriers to Let It In
    #336: How to Communicate Complaints Effectively
    #335: Nurture Your Soul with Sex
    #334: How to Express Your Emotions Without Being "Emotional"
    #333: Q&A: We're Time Poor - How Do We Add Some Zing?
    #332: Be Conscious Not Complacent
    #331: It's Ok to Disappoint Your Partner
    #330: Moans & Groans – why sound is good in sex and how to make more
    #329: Gateways to the Erotic Shift
    #328: Safety is Sexy
    #327: Pace Your Sexual Interactions
    #326: Fly on the Wall Friday - my new Video Series
    #325: When Things Get Wobbly Assume the Best and Get Curious
    #324: How Alike do you Need to be to Have a Good Relationship
    #323: Be "At Home" in Your Body
    #322: Don't Ever Stop Kissing
    #321: Consent From the Inside
    #320: How To Say No Without It Feeling Like Rejection
    #319: The Benefits of a Great Love Life Part 3: Sexual Transformation
    #318: The Benefits of a Great Love Life Part 2: Relational Transformation
    #317: The Benefits of a Great Love Life Part 1: Personal Transformation
    #316: Take Your Partner Off A Sexual Pedestal
    #315: Finesse Your Expertise on Each Other
    #314: A Lingering Sense of Each Other
    #313: How Do You Know When You're Having Good Sex?
    #312: Conflict is Inevitable So Learn to Prevent, Manage and Repair
    #311: The Bridgerton Effect
    #310: Cuddle plus – an essential phase of the affection-sex continuum
    #309: Moment-by-Moment Consent
    #308: How To Give (and Receive) An Erotic Spanking
    #307: Three Types of Sexual Communication: Chit-chat, In-the-moment and the Debrief
    #306: What I Desire
    #305: Lazy Sex
    #304: It's Not "Needy" to Connect - It's Human!
    #303: The Art of the Thrust
    #302: Transformational Erotica
    #301: Sex As Embodied Mindfulness Practice
    #300: So Many Ways to Eat, So Many Ways to…
    #299: Date Night or Date Day?
    #298: Teenage Love-Making
    #297: Turning Sex Lives Upside-Down - It's My Life's Work!
    #296: The Sex Store in Your Pantry
    #295: Do You PIV or VEP When You Have Sex?
    #294: Take Your Penis for a Walk!
    #293: It's Time to Let Our Souls Catch-Up
    #292: Become a Sensual Explorer
    #291: Q&A: My Wife Won't Pleasure Herself in Front of Me
    #290: Subtle Shifts to Great Sex
    #289: Q&A: My Husband Can't Keep an Erection, and He Smokes Lots of Marajuana
    #288: Love in the Time of COVID-19
    #287: Q&A: My Partner Doesn't Climax from Oral Sex and I'm Worried
    #286: Meditate Your Way to Great Sex
    #285: Q&A: My Partner Doesn't Like Kissing - what to do?
    #284: Communing - deep intimate connection
    #283: Q&A: We Want to Try a Threesome - how do we do it safely?
    #282: On Being A Human in a Female Body
    #281: Q&A: How Do We Connect After So Much Stress?
    #280: Get A Life! Your Sex Drive Needs the Dopamine
    #279: Q&A: My Husband Is Having An Affair and I'm Relieved
    #278: Stocking Up Your Love Larder - the key to spontaneous sex
    #277: Q&A: How Do I Flex My New Found Interest in Sex?
    #276: Intercourse as Foreplay
    #275: Q&A: Fun in the Sun - How to Have Safe Holiday Sex
    #274: Bake Your Cake Before You Ice It - the foundation of great sex
    #273: Q&A: Is It Normal to Want Sex Twice A Day?
    #272: How Has Sex Helped You Grow - Research Participants Wanted!
    #271: Q&A: How Do I Meet My Sexual Needs in a Sexless Marriage
    #270: Optimal Sexuality - Reaching Your Sexual Potential
    #269: Q&A: How Do I Get My Mojo Back?
    #268: It's the Sum of the Small Things
    #267: Q&A: How Do We Reignite Our Love Life
    #266: Relationship Vitamins
    #265: I See You as Lover - the importance of attention in loving well
    #264: The Pleasure of A Soft Cock
    #263: Make Every Stroke Count
    #262: You Can Make Love With Just A Kiss
    #261: Finding the 'More' - the Spiritual Dimensions of Sex
    #260: How to Stay In Love
    #259: Expanding Your Sexual Play Part 2: How
    #258: Expanding Your Sexual Play Part 1: What
    #257: Simple Sex is Good Sex
    #256: Solo Sex: Mindful Masturbation
    #255: Own the Crone
    #254: Porn Star versus Prude
    #253: “When One is Pretending, the Whole Body Revolts”
    #252: Non-Linear Love-Making: the "Picnic" Approach to Sex
    #251: Make Your Bedroom A Sanctuary
    #250: Sexy Debriefing
    #249: Getting "Love Drunk"
    #248: Make-Over Your Sex Life
    #247: Be Real, Express Freely
    #246: The Fairy Tales Got It Wrong
    #245: Are Humans Naturally Monogamous - and if not, what does that mean?
    #244: Gigglegasms
    #243: Evolve with the Seven Elements of Sexuality
    #242: Getting to Sex can be Like Getting to the Gym
    #241: Intensity Repels, Enticement Attracts. Like Chocolate Cake.
    #240: Turn Yourself On and the World Turns On To You
    #239: Therapy is Composting Your Sh*t
    #238: Are You Flat-lining or Surfing in Life?
    #237: How to Avoid Spiritual Bypassing in Sex & Relationships
    #236: The Clitoris is Not an On-Off Button
    #235: The Three Phases of Conscious Relationship Evolution
    #234: Allow Self-Indulgence
    #233: Are You Relationship-Oriented?
    #232: Tantra: Sex Through Non-Sex
    #231: A Multitude of Orgasmic Possibilities
    #230: Sink In to Sync In
    #229: Penises - does size really matter?
    #228: What To Do When He Can't Come
    #227: The Adolescent Male Masturbatory Model of Sex
    #226: Merge Sex & Love Energies for Potent Connection
    #225: Sex is a Normal Part of Life
    #224: We Judge ‘Normal’ Sex Based on Our Own Experiences
    #223: How Do I Love Thee? Let me count the ways...
    #222: Project 'Great Sex'
    #221: Beforeplay Suggestions
    #220: Foreplay and Beforeplay
    #219: How to Heighten Sensory Pleasure
    #218: The Bedroom is for Expression, Not Suppression
    #217: The Three Types of Sex All Couples Need
    #216: Things that make you go 'mmm' and things that make you go 'ngh'
    #215: Libido - the Interplay of Desire and Arousal
    #214: The Good and Bad of Porn
    #213: Bad Communication Styles - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
    #212: My Journey to Becoming A Transpersonal Sexologist
    #211: Seven Sex Tips for Busy People
    #210: Penises Love A Soft Touch
    #209: Share Before You Fix
    #208: The Best Thing A Father Can Do
    #207: The Exquisiteness of a Relaxed Vagina
    #206: The Look of Love - Eye-Gazing
    #205: Quanta of Deliciousness
    #204: How to Maintain the “Mmm-Factor”
    #203: How to Have 'Dirty' Sex With Someone You Love
    #202: Seven Benefits of Attending A LoveLife Couples Tantra Retreat
    #201: Make Sex Your Hobby
    #200: Partnered Sex is Not Solo Sex for Two
    #199: Melting Moments
    #198: Your Partner Can't Be Everything To You
    #197: Sex is Good, Sleep is Better!
    #196: Savour Sex
    #195: How To Live A Tantric Life
    #194: Be Kind - It Works
    #193: How to Push Your Sexual Boundaries
    #192: Good Rest=Good Sex
    #191: We Need Bliss
    #190: Being Sexually Receptive is Not Being Sexually Passive
    #189: So Much Love
    #188: A High-Quality Relationship is a High-Maintenance Relationship
    #187: Sex as Spiritual Practice
    #186: Playing with the Yin and Yang of Sex
    #185: The Yin and Yang of Sex
    #184: Third Level Love-Making
    #183: Vive La Difference!
    #182: What Is a Marriage Sabbatical and Why Take One?
    #181: The Basic Sexual Unit is One
    #180: A Penis is for Connection, not Penetration
    #179: Men Have Not Evolved to 'Sow Their Seed Widely'
    #178: Big Sex is Beautiful Sex
    #177: Women Are Not 'Naturally' Monogamous
    #176: Sex Therapy and Couples Retreats - What to do if you have a Reluctant Partner
    #175: The Chilled Build - How to Get in the Mood for Sex
    #174: Mums and Dads Need "Cuddle Time"
    #173: Giving Good Head Does Not Mean Simulating A Vacuum Cleaner
    #172: Is Porn Making Women Less Feminine?
    #171: Is Porn Making Men Less Masculine?
    #170: Rough Sex
    #169: The Three Pillars of Love
    #168: Seven Benefits of Attending My Couples Retreats
    #167: Ban Penetration - the word, not the act!
    #166: Solo Cultivation - Mindful Masturbation for Men
    #165: Our Bodies Thrive on Pleasure
    #164: Leela: Cosmic Play, Sexual Play
    #163: Toys for Grown-Ups
    #162: Backdoor Pleasures - how to enjoy anal sex
    #161: The Sexual Glutton vs The Sexual Gourmet
    #160: Erotic Wickedness - How to Play with Power Exchange
    #159: Practice Expressing Your Feelings For Greater Connection and Better Sex
    #158: Let’s Talk About Our Sex
    #157: Love Your Breasts
    #156: Ditch the Sex Myths
    #155: Relax Into Orgasm
    #154: When A Woman Is Free To Be Herself Sex Takes On A Spiritual Dimension
    #153: It All Starts With A Kiss…
    #152: The Ecstasy is in the Spaces In-Between
    #151: Radical Honesty
    #150: Strength in Softness, Softness in Strength
    #149: Your New Year's Resolution - Have Better Sex
    #148: Peace, Pleasure and Goodwill to All
    #147: A Beautiful Vulva is Like A Luscious Hamburger
    #146: Come From a Place of "Yes"!
    #145: Finger Finesse
    #144: Reluctance is Not frigidity, It’s Body Intelligence - She’s Not Ready!
    #143: Tantra: The Art of Mindful Sex
    #142: Love Thy Partner
    #141: ‘Invitation’ not ‘Penetration’
    #140: Female Bodies Are Sexual Pleasure Machines
    #139: Sex is the Base of Being Human
    #138: Awaken Your Vagina for the Kind of Sex All Women (and their Partners) Deserve
    #137: Bonking on the Right Side of the Brain
    #136: Have Sex with God…
    #135: So Many Boxes - So Little Freedom
    #134: How to Move Forward When Your Partner Has Betrayed You
    #133: The Reason Why Humans Are So Sexual
    #132: Partnered Yoga - Erotic Connection
    #131: Make Love Like You’re Playing An Instrument For Ultimate Sensual Pleasure
    #130: How to Talk to Kids About Sex - and why you need to
    #129: Inviting A Third (or fourth or more…) - the right way to play
    #128: Does Size Really Matter?
    #127: The Way of the Householder - how to make the everyday sublime
    #126: Our Bodies Are the Best Sex Toy Ever
    #125: Honour Your Genitals for Exquisite Sex - the Why and How
    #124: Tango Tantra - Make Your Love Life Blissfully Connected
    #123: The Yin & Yang of Sex Chemistry
    #122: DIY Porn - It’s A Fun Way to Add Spice to Your Love Life
    #121: Move Beyond Sleaze and Shame and Discover The Third Wave of Sexuality
    #120: Don’t Fake It Till You Make It - ‘Cause You Won’t Make It
    #119: Give Your Man Absolute Pleasure...Try Prostate Massage
    #118: We’re All Individuals! There are Spectra of Sexuality
    #117: My Book "Seven Sex Goddesses" Released!
    #116: Can Fisting Be Fabulous?
    #115: Ten Reasons Why Married Women Have Affairs, and What To Do When She Does
    #114: Mutual Pleasure Requires Mutual Responsibility - how to expand your sex play safely
    #113: Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down - how to add restraint to your sex life
    #111: 10 Tips For Your Vagina
    #112: What’s Your Eroticism - Intimate, Wild, Fun?
    #110: When the Man Leads, the Woman Embellishes
    #109: Unblock Sexual Energy for Greater Love
    #108: The Sensual Dom(me)
    #107: Explore Your Fantasies
    #106: Dress-Ups! How to have fun with role-play.
    #105: Consensual Non-Monotony
    #104: Consensual Non-Monogamy
    #103: Languid 69
    #102: Sensual Non-Monogamy
    #101: Make Love to Yourself - Mindful Masturbation for Women
    #100: Celibacy, Sexuality and Spirituality
    #99: Spice Alone Tastes Terrible...
    #98: Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
    #97: Plugging In - Sex Without Movement
    #96: Growing Better With Age
    #95: Teaching Tantra in Paradise
    #94: Time Apart Can Be Erotic
    #93: When He's Lost Interest
    #92: Q&A: Why Doesn’t Porn Do It for Me?
    #91: If Sex Hurts, Change What You're Doing
    #90: Some Words for the Lower Desire Partner
    #89: Trust Your Body
    #88: Chill Out in Your Sanctuary
    #87: Planning for Pleasure
    #86: Make the Lead-Up Erotic
    #85: Advice from Japanese Grandmothers on How to be Beautiful
    #84: If You Want A Mature Relationship You Have To Be Mature
    #83: How Often Should We Have Sex?
    #82: Slay the Pink Elephants!
    #81: The Tantric Lounge Radio Show - Talking Sex, Science and Spirituality
    #80: What Do Men Love Best About Sex?
    #79: Fetishes are Fine
    #78: The Awesomeness of Men Who Are Present
    #77: Sex Doesn't Have to Involve the Genitals
    #76: Winter's a Time for Sexual Growth
    #75: An Erection Does Not Have To Be Serviced
    #74: "My Ejaculation Opens the Door to Deeper Orgasm"
    #73: To Come or Not To Come
    #72: Know Your Sexual Rhythm
    #71: Fill Up Your Self-Love Tank
    #70: The Cup-of-Tea Approach to Sexual Self-Coaching
    #69: Trust Means Being OK with Not Knowing
    #68: Renegotiate Your Contract
    #67: Breathe Together - It's Tantric Foreplay
    #66: The Number One Secret to Good Sex
    #65: An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away - why sex is so good for you
    #64: Teaching Sex Therapists Tantra
    #63: Is “Good Enough” Sex Good Enough?
    #62: Observing Love
    #61: There Is Always A Lower Desire Partner
    #60: You Can't Find Balance, You Have To Craft It
    #59: Sexual, Spiritual Business Leaders
    #58: Positive Messages in 50 Shades of Grey
    #57: Playing with Pleasure and Pain
    #56: Pelvic Floor Pleasures - Advanced
    #55: Pelvic Floor Pleasures - The Basics
    #54: Three Good Reasons To Read Erotica
    #53: Tantric Kink
    #52: Tools for Self-Validation from a Luscious Woman
    #51: How to Master the Art of Vaginal Stimulation
    #50: Discover the G, A and Ohhhh-Spots
    #49: The Tantric Quickie
    #48: We All Need To Be Balanced in Our Masculine and Feminine Sides
    #47: One Couple's "Kilimanjaro Walk" to Sexual Reconnection
    #46: Feminine Receptivity and the Go-Getter Kind of Gal
    #45: The Etiquette of Observing Breasts
    #44: The World is Waking to Conscious Sex
    #43: Try A Little Tenderness
    #42: Erotica or Sleaze
    #41: A Sensual Man Makes A Great Lover
    #40: Sensuality Feeds Sexuality
    #39: What is Sex Therapy, Sex Coaching and Tantra Teaching?
    #38: The Beauty of Conflict
    #37: A Woman's Body Opens In Stages
    #36: Breathe Well: Live & Love Well
    #35: Phone Sex
    #34: Do Your Research - It's Fun!
    #33: Unconditional Love Requires Self-validation
    #32: Men Need a Muse Not Just A Vagina
    #31: Teaching Tantra in Thailand
    #30: Being Real
    #29: Twelve Benefits of Sex
    #28: Communicate - Human's Can't Read Minds!
    #27: True Intimacy
    #26: The Core of Tantra: Real Sex
    #25: Sex as Entree not Dessert
    #24: Fire and Water: The Masculine and Feminine Sexual Energies
    #23: High Libido Women Keep Themselves Simmering
    #22: The Breadth of Sexuality & the Importance of Fun
    #21: Prioritising Sex
    #20: Obligation Sex is Self-Imposed Low-Level Sexual Trauma
    #19: Not-So-Secret Men's Business
    #18: Could We Have A Festival of Sexuality?
    #17: Three Things a Whole Man Needs
    #16: Valuing the Masculine
    #15: Valuing the Feminine
    #14: Face the Darkness to Find the Light
    #13: Grow Up and Open Up Australia
    #12: How Men Can Circulate Sexual Energy
    #11: The Great G-Spot & Female Ejaculation Debate!
    #10: Sexual Pleasure is the Great Equalizer
    #9: Become a Black Belt in the Bedroom!
    #8: Neuroplasticity - Moulding Your Brain for Better Sex
    #7: Raise Your Sexual Energy
    #6: How To Consume An Ice-Cream - Lose Yourself in Pleasure Pt 2
    #5: How To Eat A Peach - Lose Yourself in Pleasure Pt 1
    #4: Love in the Time of Chaos
    #3: A History of Sexual Misinformation
    #2: Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth
    #1: The Birth of the LoveLife Blog - with some underlying philosophical ramblings

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    "I just am finishing the Luscious Woman course. It has been such an inspiring course and you have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace. My husband is the doing the black belt in the bedroom course as well and its been so amazing watching him develop into the soft, loving and passionate man I knew he could be. We are so grateful for your course, your passion and wish everyone who wants to expand their sexual understand could know about this course. "

    "We loved that this book is about simple fundamentals, not superficial tips and tricks."

    "It’s made us realise how important it is to always be there for each other, to prioritise us, even though it’s so easy to be distracted."

    "It feels like I am taking possession of my 'goddesshood'! As a consequence I find that I am now confident and settled and calm with my husband and I can move between the goddesses, giving and receiving as the dance feels right. It's quite glorious, we're loving it. There is so much more I could say - I am so grateful and joyous! Thank you so much for your dedication, commitment, honesty and love."

    "We've just spent a wonderful weekend with Jacqueline. Her workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound - the weekend brought us closer in ways we could never have imagined. Thank-you for filling up our love bank!"

    "What do I say to you for taking me on a magical adventure of discovery yet again? My most heartfelt thanks for an incredible Saturday night at The Tantric Lounge."

    "It was a really powerful, transformative experience. I feel I have reclaimed something precious and essential with the help of a group of loving, supportive women. It made me appreciate how much healing we can do as women when we come together and share our experiences."

    "We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other since seeing you, almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."

    "I feel an enormous sense of relief that we have a platform to communicate about intimacy and sex in an open respectful and adult way."

    "Your book made me realise not only what I’d lost, but how to regain it. I’m loving getting in touch with the goddesses in all parts of my life - including sexually!"

    "The videos were beautifully engaging. You've condensed the essence of being a lover from the male perspective into an easy to follow course and I can only wish I had discovered this course ages ago and saved myself 15 years of trial & error with my wife! "

    "Luscious Woman has truly shifted my thinking, my life and me, in a wonderful direction. Thank you so much Jacqueline."

    "The Tantric Lounge has surpassed any expectations I had of attending such an event and I find myself feeling exhilarated from the experience to a whole new degree after each session."

    "I felt so useless and alone after I had my baby, and forcing myself to have sex with my husband made it worse. This book has helped me see in little ways how I can enjoy being a mother and a wife - which means I can enjoy being me! Thank-you."

    "Your Tantra workshops are fundamental to the health and sustainability of all relationships, regardless. In this faster than ever paced world, over stimulated and titillated, and where choice and everything-can-be-had as a retail experience is omnipresent, your guidance is like a light through the darkness..."

    "Thank-you for for so skillfully weaving my sexuality and spirituality back together. I now feel the way I’ve always wanted to feel."

    "I feel far more comfortable with myself and have a willingness to explore and grow in this rather new area of my life - how exciting."

    "The opening up to my own sexuality and what it means for us as a couple has been way beyond my expectations. I’ve felt safe and loved the sense of playfulness and the choices we’ve had whether or how to participate. I go away hugely enriched."

    "My sessions with Jacqueline were like a great conversation with a very wise sister/friend. She helped me through the end of my 25 year marriage with compassion and insight, giving me perspective, coping skills and a gentle push where required. I’m so grateful to have had her wise counsel."

    "Your workshops are so fun, connective and amazing, just a joy to participate in. You definitely have great skills in putting together a very cool experience for people."

    "I have to tell you that this experience has been life changing for me, and your wonderful loving work in helping us let go and come into ourselves made this life change such a warm comfortable natural process, that I can hardly remember what it was like before."

    "This book is beautifully clear and succinct, a real treasure."

    "I really enjoyed this book. It contains some great concepts that I’ve really been able to put into practice."

    "Love your work. You’re speaking the language and have a super in-depth understanding which I respect!"

    "Thanks so much for a life changing five days! We were truly impacted and challenged beyond our expectations so thank you."

    "This course has, after 29yrs of adolescent masturbatory style sex, been HUGE with some major penny-drops. I love your approach!"

    "Luscious Woman was so useful and very much applies to the modern lush woman who wants to feel and be even more empowered!"

    "I am personally so grateful for participating in Saturday's Tantric Lounge, connecting with a group of people with beautiful, fertile rich energy."

    "Thank-you for creating a safe space for us all to learn, grow and share. Absolutely essential for all women who want to thrive, not just survive."

    "Thank you for a wonderful retreat. All the things we were worried about turned out to be no concern at all and all the things we were looking forward to turned out to be much better than we dreamed! We are still buzzing from the experience. "

    "Thank you for your warm vibrant energy, enthusiasm and passion. You've given a recently fatigued man the tools to recover his mojo."

    "Thanks so much for a life changing 5 days! We were truly impacted and challenged beyond our expectations so thank you."

    "This book has changed our lives. It’s all good practical common-sense - and it works!"

    "It's not a course, it's an awakening. It opens your eyes to what's possible as a couple."

    "Thank you for teaching me how to treat my wife (with numerous chronic illnesses) in a spirit of compassion while opening up a multitude of possibilities for both of us to experience giving and receiving."

    "Thanks so much for a life changing weekend. I honestly mean it! I feel like a completely different person!!!!!"

    "We will always remember the weekend, we discovered so much together and shall keep learning with each other with the skills gained for a long time to come. Thank you for such a great experience."

    "Thank you for the weekend retreat - I greatly enjoyed and learned a lot at it. Your combination of spirituality and philosophy meeting is an inspiration."

    "I enjoyed doing this course immensely. The content is spot on and you rightly focus on the 'being' rather than the 'doing'. "

    "It's been a deep, profound and subtle spiritual liberation. It's given me the freedom and empowerment to open up and allow myself to feel and to express how I feel, in every way. This feeling of liberation and love and power and openness pervades my whole life and how I live now, and I can see the effect it has on others too and how they respond to me. It's very subtle, but soooo powerful and wonderful. It feels like it is radiating out from the very core of my being and is an all encompassing love, so, very much including, but not just about, my sexual being."

    "It’s been so good to find a book that tells us how to look after ourselves - not only how to look after the baby."

    "I never thought I’d lose my libido - but I did! Who’d have thought one little baby could be so exhausting! Your book made so much sense - it explained why I was feeling this way, why my partner was feeling this way, and what we could do about it."

    "We weren’t in a very good place. Reading Jacqueline’s book together made the world of difference and we’re stronger for it"

    "We LOVED the retreat. You created a safe, adult, sexy space where we could be honest and open, exploring ourselves and the connection that exists in really different ways than we've ever been able to in the past. Your rich and sensitive holding of the spiritual side, and ease of its emergence as sexual energy - an energy to draw the other in and connect with - was really a gift and a beautiful model to offer. "

    "Your program also seriously helped me understand my own male sexuality so much better. A big thank you for helping me with what I needed to hear! It is so awesome what you do, it is life changing for us on this end, and you are such a natural!"

    "This weekend has been so much more than we expected. Solidifying in a way we didn’t anticipate. It has opened our eyes to even more possibilities."

    "I have had a really lovely shift and have felt subtle changes in my approach to myself and body. "

    "I've seen so many therapists but you're amazing! I come out of each session so much more self-aware and enlightened."

    "Thanks again for your brilliant life-changing support. "

    "We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives."

    "I wish we’d had this book when our first bub was born. But better late than never, it’s been a great help second time around!"

    "Thank you for the wonderful Tantric Lounge session, we really enjoyed it. You are a very good facilitator, and an absolute expert in this area of life and love."

    "A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."

    "I never expected the Luscious Woman Workshop to have such a dramatic change on how I view myself and how I now feel sexy, feminine and graceful. I've never said those words about myself before!"

    "We want to thank you so very much for the most wonderful week in paradise, both literally and metaphorically. Having been to your workshops previously we knew for sure that we were in for a week of lusciousness, but our week with you in Bali was more gloriously luscious and inspiring than we could have imagined."

    "We used to fight constantly about sex, I never thought we'd find a way out. Then we found you and that's all changed. You're awesome!"

    "I've just read your new book and I just want to say it is FABULOUS!! I'm so glad you wrote it and it is such a special and beautiful work I can't put it down!"

    "I really enjoyed all the loving energy in the room. I've certainly never experienced anything like it before. "

    "Thank-you for so deliciously weaving my sexually and spiritually together again, I now feel the way I’ve always wanted and known I could feel."

    "A really powerful, transformative experience. I feel I have reclaimed something precious and essential."

    "Jacqueline, you are so extraordinarily professional. I’ve done a lot of courses in this area and yours are so far above the rest in terms of content and presentation."

    "Hol-ee f@ck you can write, Bravo!!! ;) I've been reading your things for years, but the Goddesses are tying it all together so exquisitely. Thank-you, and Wow! "

    "I really got what it means to come into my masculine sexual energy, with strength and confidence and no macho or aggression. Feels great! (And my wife is beaming!)"

    "Taking Black Belt completely revolutionized my thinking about sex and has had a long lasting positive influence on my sex life."

    "You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"

    "Loved this book - it was made for busy people like us. Thank-you for guiding and inspiring us!"

    "I don't think it is over-stating to say that I would call the course 'life changing'. In essence I believe it has been a major catalyst in deep healing, a fundamental shift in personal and spiritual growth, and lasting and evolving change in self confidence, body awareness, self acceptance and ongoing sexual exploration."

    "The couples retreat is something every couple should do if they can. The course is refreshing, inspiring and gave our relationship a fun tool set to set us up for a joyful life together. It’s not just about sex (though that stuff was great), it debunks myths and starts a conversation that changed our relationship - definitely for the better. Jacqueline has a gift to make everyone feel comfortable. Don’t wait until there is a ‘problem’ - all relationships can be improved. Would recommend to all couples!"

    "Seeing Jacqueline has been by far one of the best decisions we have made. Before seeking her help I was very sad about our situation. I am so happy to say that as a direct result of her thoughtful guidance we are in such a different and better place in our sex life."

    "We had a fabulous time at the retreat. The surroundings, the people, and the teachings were all a blessing. It has taught us to explore new horizons in our love relationship and has brought our connection closer. We will be using all the techniques in the time to come as our sex life develops and improves. In fact, the results have been almost instantaneous!"

    "I thought this retreat would expand our sex life, but it didn’t so much expand as turn our sex life upside down! I’m now seeing the world with a new, exciting, slightly bewildering new light!"

    "You’re the first of many counsellors who really feels comfortable and is coming from a practical, understandable place. You've helped us find the key and it's really quite simple."

    "Before meeting Jacqueline we were fumbling around in the dark, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."

    "A huge thank you with all my heart for the unique and beautiful experience that you created for all of us on the weekend. It was such a magnificent experience and I am amazed at how much the Luscious Woman weekend boosted my confidence, I feel fantastic. What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you."

    "Sex was just off the agenda and we’d lost connection. We couldn’t recommend this book more. It really will help"

    "It was all about rediscovering and embracing being a woman, and everything that surrounds that."

    "It is beautiful how each activity builds on the previous one like blocks, so that by the end of the evening we are engaging in the most divine magical experiences that we could never have got to otherwise!"

    "You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace. "

    "Now we understand why you wanted us to attend one of your retreats. We learnt so much from you in private sessions, but doing your couples retreat has really taken us so much further and deeper. It’s been absolutely wonderful, far more transformative than we could ever have imagined."

    "I'm so happy with ME, where I am and where we are as a couple. This is where I've been trying to get for so long and now I'm here! Thanks - you're the best!"

    "You’ve really helped me tap into something wonderful and powerful. I’ve discovered where I was letting myself down and have been enjoying 'filling in the blanks’."

    "Since Black Belt my partner has said that our sex life has turned 180 degrees, and that you are a miracle worker !"

    "Working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried."

    Jacqueline Hellyer is one of Australia's foremost authorities on sex and relationships and founder of the LoveLife Clinic.

    We acknowledge and pay respect to the Gadigal People of the Eora Nation, Traditional Custodians of the unceded land on which we work, and pay our respects to their Elders past and present.

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    762 Darling Street Rozelle NSW 2039 Australia
    Phone: 0418 505620

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